And what actually works when you've read all the books and still can't stop saying yes
You already know what you should do.
You have read the books. You have tried the scripts. You understand—intellectually—that you cannot keep giving until there is nothing left.
So why does "no" still feel impossible in the moment?
If you keep saying yes before you have even checked in with yourself—then replaying the conversation later, wondering why you did not speak up—
This isn't a discipline problem. And it's not a character flaw.
It's a pattern that lives below thought.
This guide is for people who have tried to "set boundaries" and still cannot stop over-giving—because the advice never addressed where the pattern actually lives.
Inside Why You Can't Just "Set Boundaries", you'll learn:
Most people read this in under 10 minutes—and feel a noticeable shift in how they understand their "yes."
This is not a checklist. It is an orientation.
So you can finally understand what has been happening—and respond differently.
"Cheri is the person you go to when things are heavy, the stakes are real, and you need someone who won't panic, won't sugarcoat, and will quietly make it right."
— Senior Vice President, Finance
I created this guide because I kept meeting capable, thoughtful people who were blaming themselves for something that was never a personal failure.
They weren't weak. They weren't unmotivated. They weren't doing it wrong.
They were trying to think their way out of a pattern that does not respond to thinking.
Most boundary resources focus on what to say.
This guide focuses on why your body responds before you can think—and what changes when you work at that level instead.
When you understand the pattern underneath, the shame dissolves. And from that place, real choice becomes possible.
That's why this works. It doesn't ask you to try harder.
It helps you see clearly.
If you have read the books and still cannot stop saying yes, this will help you understand why—and what actually makes change possible.
No scripts. No fixing yourself. Just clarity.